5 Powerful Steps to Feel Better Every Single Day
If you're someone who often finds themselves just going through the motions and telling others "I'm fine" when deep down, you know you're anything but fine, this one's for you.
Feeling deeply unsatisfied, disconnected from your life's purpose, or spiritually adrift yet pressured to maintain appearances of having it all together is the worst.
But did you know that making the conscious choice to truly feel better every day is completely within your power.
It starts with tuning into the areas where you've been operating on emotional auto-pilot far too long. From there, you can begin redirecting energy into healthy practices that foster authentic well-being and happiness.
Are you ready to break out of the "I'm fine" paradox once and for all? I know I am.. Here are five transformative steps that can help:
Step 1: Get Radically Honest with Yourself
The first step is stripping away the toxic self-deception of forced complacency. This means carving out the time to take a personal inventory.
Which aspects of your life no longer fulfill you?
What hopes and dreams have you unconsciously shelved?
What unhealed wounds, fears, or insecurities are you burying under the "I'm fine lies"?
With an unjudgmental mind, explore where you're feeling emotionally or spiritually stagnant or disconnected from your truest self. Write it all out, and resist any temptation to judge or rationalize these realizations away. Just allow yourself to feel into the raw honesty of what your soul has been wordlessly craving.
Step 2: Commit to Non-Negotiable Self-Care!
Our society loves upholding the unhealthy myth that self-care is a luxury rather than an urgent necessity. Isn’t it time you stepped away from these toxic myths and establishing a checklist of non-negotiable self-care practices that serve as your daily antidote to "I'm fineness."
This looks different for everyone, but could include nourishing your body with exercise and whole foods, Taking a daily gut health supplement (see my recommendations here), setting morning mindfulness rituals, pursuing creative passions (get help with that here), bonding with pets/nature, or simply defending pockets of restorative solitude.
Prioritize these self-care anchors not as expendable indulgences, but as the unshakeable foundations.
Treat these purposeful practices with the same commitment and discipline as any other obligation. Over time, you're reconditioning your mind, body, and spirit to a new baseline - one of being worthy of consistently feeling far better than just "fine."
Step 3: Nurture Your Inner Authenticity
We've all experienced periods where some aspect of our life feels suppressed or stifled based on outdated narratives about who we "should" be to remain likable and accepted.
Maybe you've been burying parts of your identity that feel at odds with others' expectations. Or perhaps your outer persona no longer aligns with your values or inner most dreams.
A key step in elevating beyond "I'm fineness" is giving yourself wholehearted permission to show up authentically in every sphere of life. Get curious about the aspects of yourself you've been hiding or camouflaging. Then, experiment with incrementally re-introducing those elements through your self-expression, boundaries, and how you navigate the world. Release any fears that this will disrupt the status quo - authenticity is not only your birthright, but your source of infinite revitalization.
Step 4: Voice Your Needs and Desires
For far too long, many of us have been conditioned that it's more noble to deprioritize or flat-out ignore our needs in order to accommodate others' comfort. But living from this premise of self-sacrifice is what inevitably corrodes our life force, spearheads resentment, and perpetuates cycles of deep discontent and "I'm fineness."
Break this toxic script by developing immense self-compassion and the willingness to get assertive about your physical, emotional, creative, and spiritual needs. Thoughtfully communicate these to loved ones and actively co-create solutions so your soul can remain nourished. Make it a practice to lovingly voice your desires without self-judgment. Needs articulated clearly and without apology create the oxygen you need to answer “never better”.
Step 5: Design Your never better persona
In order to truly transcend feeling just "fine" and access a deeper sense of purpose, it’s time to move beyond what's expected or "possible" for you. From a place of compassionate self-study (Step 1), you've clarified the dreams, longings, and awakenings that have been suppressed under ambivalent cultural narratives like "I should just be grateful for what I have."
Now it's time to thoughtfully author your most inspired next chapters. Open yourself to radical reimaginations of how you might allocate your daily existence. Get wildly creative about opting out of any personal or professional situations or scripts that no longer serve your spirit's paths. Map out an uncaged existence that feels liberating and aligned with your soul's truths.
At its core, this evolution is about purposefully aligning your daily reality with what makes you feel most vibrantly alive, rather than playing the "I'm fine" character in your own life. It's taking the brave leaps to make this one precious life a fully embodied, balls-to-the-wall experience of your own truth and unstoppable becoming.
The journey to consistently feeling better than "just fine" doesn't have to be chaotic or intimidating. But it does require courageous commitment and patience as you reacquaint with your innermost yearnings. Start practicing these five steps today, and watch how a mundane existence transforms into one of fiery resonance with the song your spirit has been aching to sing at full aria. Because you, gorgeous soul, were born to feel astronomically more than just "fine."
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~Judy Davis is on a mission to help you go from “I’m fine” to “never better” and mean it. She is a motivational speaker, published author and mental wellness mentor with information, products and books that are go to resources to help people reduce anxiety and stress so they can find balance in their lives.